When does it happen? What is that defining moment? Beyond redemption? What drives it home? The realization that things aren't what they were, that "something's changed". That you and that person are not the same anymore?
The first time your phone rings and you realize that you have nothing to say after the first "how's things?2 When you laugh bcz you're expected to and not bcz that's what you do together? Or when you realize that you haven't even spoken for a while and that's ok?
This is not some oh-boohoo-the-spark-is-gone-time-to-break-up-crap. There's no boyfriend in this picture. Not even close.
There are far more meaningful relationships in life. Ones you think will never change. How do you handle it when they do? Pretend it isn't happening? Breathe a "that's life" and keep walking? Fight, stupidly, to take it back to what it was, when you know its impossible?
Accept the change? There's a thought. Of course things change with time. But is it really so unreal to hope that some things wont? That they'l stay as an anchor and you just know it'l always be there, undeniably, irrefutably? Akin to knowing that day will always follow darkness?
Maybe we should just know when to stop trying. And start accepting. Not all battles are won. Even if you win the war. Just take the peace treaty and smile. Through gritted teeth.
Because you know what?
In the end, Time makes fools of us all.
3 comments:
I love this one, probably also because i can relate to it. And specially the 'no boyfriend in picture part', hope there are some more others who would understand the pain of losing more valuable relationships.
And more than anything i really appreciate the bravery shown in writing this, I understand how loss is one of the most painful things that one do in life.
It is not about winnin the war or anhything. As you said rightly, at the end, time does make fools outta all of us. but it also teaches a lot many things. we mature, in relationships. and it need not be by being with a person. being away from them teaches us a lot more than being vth them. and each experience is a lesson to hold on to!
Ah!!!. That fight to cling on and not let it go away. Sometimes everything seems just like an illusion. As someone rightly said, life is what happens when you are busy making other plans...
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